Timothy I. Flahive

June 23, 1957 ‒ March 11, 2020

Delaware, Ohio

Notice: because of the pandemic and limitations imposed by the church on the number of persons who can be in person at the funeral mass, Tim’s funeral will be a private event. Only family members and a limited number of invited guests may attend the funeral mass in person. The Flahive Family wish it were otherwise.

Nevertheless, Tim’s funeral mass will be live-streamed over the Internet. The Internet link is www.stmarylivestream.com  

Timothy I. “Duck” Flahive, age 62, passed peacefully into God’s arms on March 11, ­­ 2020 after a courageous eight year battle with Early Onset Alzheimer’s Disease.

A lifelong resident of Delaware, Tim was the third youngest of eight children born to the late Edward A. and Barbara T. (Schweitzer) Flahive.  Tim attended Delaware Saint Mary School for five years and Delaware City Schools for seven years.  Tim graduated from Delaware Hayes High School in 1975 where he was an outstanding student and an accomplished athlete, earning nine varsity letters in football, tennis and swimming.  In 2015, he was inducted into the Delaware Hayes Distinguished Alumni Hall of Fame.

Out of high school, Tim attended Miami of Ohio for two years.  But all along Tim had a plan to attend his dream school: The University of Notre Dame. Thankfully for Tim and Notre Dame, he was admitted in 1977.  It was a match made in Heaven!  Tim loved everything about Notre Dame:  Its intellectual rigor, attending mass at the Basilica, praying at the Grotto, cheering on many of the big time sporting events, being awestruck by the Golden Dome every day going to and from class, its catholic heritage, and most importantly the friendships that he forged with fellow students.  Those two years that Tim had at Notre Dame were some of the best years of his life.  Tim had one great weakness in life though:  if the ND Bookstore was selling something with Notre Dame on it, Tim was buying it!  He even had a vanity license plate that said “DOMER1”.

After graduating from Notre Dame with honors, Tim received his law degree from Ohio Northern University.  Following his graduation from Ohio Northern in 1983, he returned to Delaware, Ohio, to start his law practice with his Dad, and two of his brothers, Ed and Terry.  He practiced law in Delaware for close to 30 years.

Tim was an active member of the Delaware Community.  A lifelong member of St. Mary Church, he served on the St. Mary School Board. He also served as past president of the Sarah Moore Home and the Delaware County Bar Association.  For many years, Tim officiated swim meets for the Ohio High School Athletic Association from local high school dual meets to invitationals as well as the district meets. He coordinated swim meets for both the Delaware Aquatic Racing Team and the Hayes High School Swim Team. His dedication to the high school and local swim team was a labor of love.

Tim was simply lovable, loyal to his core and a bit goofy.  He brought joy to all who knew him.  Those qualities served him well throughout his life, especially as he navigated through the struggles of his disease.

Since the summer of 1969, Tim had a special friendship with Bill “Wilbur” Rietz.  Bill walked every step of this difficult journey with Tim providing love and support not just to Tim, but the Flahive family as a whole.  Everyone should be so lucky to have a friend like Bill, but those special bonds are exceedingly rare.

The family thanks The Bag of Nails Lunch Bunch which included the late Tom Clark, Casey Clark, Tony Heald, Chad Heald, Shane Heald, and Logan Philipps who continued to include Tim in their weekday professional lunches during the first four years of Tim’s illness.  They provided Tim with a sense of normalcy at a time when Tim’s world was shrinking on a daily basis. Those lunches meant the world to Tim.

The family would also like to thank the Memory Care staff at Willowbrook Delaware Run for their empathetic and outstanding care for Tim over the last several years.  Our community is fortunate to have such an excellent facility.  We also thank Heartland Hospice for their compassionate care for Tim as he declined.  During this time several family members, including Tee Heald, Babs Farkasovsky, Judy England and Ed and Penny Flahive, exhibited extraordinary devotion to Tim and his care.  In addition, the family thanks Catherine Neal for her caregiver services over several years. The family also appreciates the dedicated help from friend Kim Jackson.

Tim is survived by his daughter Maureen “Mo” Flahive, his son Phil (Denise) Flahive, his grandson Camden Flahive, and his siblings: Margie (Michael) Shade, Teresa (Tony) Heald, Babs (Steve) Farkasovsky, Ed (Penny) Flahive, Terry (Carolyn) Flahive, Shawn (Lisa) Flahive, Dan (Susan) Flahive, step brother Bill (Jill) Rissler, and step sister Judy (Mike) England, mother of his children, Carol Greene, numerous nieces, nephews, and a host of loyal and fabulous friends near and far. Tim loved his family unconditionally.

In addition to his parents, he was also preceded in death by step mother Jean L. (Davis Rissler) Flahive who was instrumental in the upbringing of Tim.

A private memorial mass for the immediate family will be celebrated on Saturday, August 29, 2020 at 10:30 am at St. Mary Catholic Church, 82 E. William Street, Delaware and will be livestreamed by logging into www.stmarylivestream.com. Burial will follow in St. Mary Cemetery. Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, attendees are required to wear masks and recognize social distancing. Arrangements have been entrusted to the Snyder-Rodman Funeral Center in Delaware.

When appropriate there will be an additional gathering to be announced for friends and family to share stories and memories in celebration of Tim’s life.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to the Catholic Foundation for the benefit of the Timothy I. Flahive Tuition Assistance Fund, 257 East Broad Street, Columbus, Ohio 43215.  Checks can be made to the Catholic Foundation of Columbus with Tim’s name on the memo line.  The fund will be used to assist the payment of tuition for students attending St. Mary School, Delaware, Ohio.

For complete details or to send a condolence, please visit: www.snyderfuneralhomes.com


  • I am very sorry to learn this news. Tim was a great guy and a true stalwart of the Delaware community.

  • My heartfelt condolences to the entire Flahive family. I did not know Tim very well, but having been a classmate of Eddie and having had the privilege of knowing Babs from our math class and athletics, I know that we are all diminished by his passing. I know that I speak for my Mom, Dad, older brother Bill, and younger brother Jay that the Middletons have been honored to have been friends with the Flahives.

  • Our hearts go out to Tim’s children and immediate family. Timmy always had a smile on his face, was cracking a joke or simply being “goofy” as you mentioned. We pray Our Father sends you the peace and comfort of Jesus. Think on good things, Tim would want you to. Sincerely, Beth (Linn) & Archie Trigg

  • So sad to hear of Tim’s passing. Everybody loved Tim! He was a light in every room he entered and always had that smile and enthusiasm! I had a lot of fun being around Tim in our high school days and at the Delaware County Pool and swim teams growing up. He made a distinctive mark on everyone he encountered! Rest In Peace my friend. Condolences to the whole Flahive family .

  • To the Flahive family. I am so sorry for your loss. Remember your family well, growing up in Delaware. Sending thoughts & prayers. ♥️🙏🙏🙏

  • I can still remember talks with Tim in 7th grade as we walked from Willis to Blue Limestone Park and back for football practice.He had a sore big toe that whole season from walking on the side walks in football cleats ( but never complained and never missed a practice or game). I have so many fond memories of sports and special times with Tim in High school. His work ethic ,kind soul , and moral compass made him a leader by example and a special friend to so many.My condolences to the Flahive family

  • I have nothing but wonderful memories of Tim and proud to have called him Friend. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.

  • My deepest sympathy to the entire Flahive family for your loss of Tim.
    Kate (Hagaman) Sterling

  • I am so sorry to learn of Tim’s passing. I join others in giving thanks for Tim’s life and for the many gifts he shared with his family and the Delaware Community.  

  • I am so sorry to learn of Tim’s passing. He was my younger brother Paul’s age, but I knew his family well from church, school, and the Delaware Stingrays, and I know the hollowness a family experiences when Sister Death visits. Please be assured of my prayers for his children and all his brothers and sisters. I will personally offer three Masses for Tim’s peaceful repose in the glory of God and his rediscovered memories.

  • I haven’t seen Tim in years but he was one of my cousins. I am so
    sorry for you loss, will be praying for you all. I remember teaching
    Tim how to swim when he very young. He was such a joy and very eager to learn. God Bless you all.

  • I am sending my thoughts and prayers to all the family.
    Tim was a kind man. I spoke to him often outside the Courthouse.

  • R.I.P. Tim 🙏 Will never forget how you taught me the rules of american football when I was a blond and naive girl from Norway, trying to comprehand the (for me) new sport. I will never forget your amazing laughter, and your fantastic smile and what a wonderful man you were. I’m lighting a candle for you here in Norway. 🧡

  • Sending love to the Flahive family. Tim was a great friend to so many of us who grew up with him … one of the kindest, smartest, most loyal people I know, and I remember and honor him with great fondness and respect. I’m glad I knew him. Rest well, friend.

  • My prayers and healing thoughts to the Flahive family. I’m truly saddened by the news of Tim’s passing, and the devastation of this cruel disease. But I have wonderful memories of growing up with Tim and his family — his humor, his smile and laugh, gatherings at their home, all of it. Much love and laughter was always a part of everything, and Tim was such an important part of that. We lost a bright light. Peace and comfort to you all.

  • I was so saddened to hear about Tim’s death. My last two years at St. Mary’s were made so much happier by Tim’s joyful and loving personality. He was always up for anything and never greeted me without a smile! My love and prayers to his brother, Sean, Tim’s children and all those grieving his passing. Teresita Collins

  • My sincere condolences to the Flahive family and all of Tim’s friends. You all certainly lived by the motto “he ain’t heavy he’s my brother”. Your dedication to him was inspiring. I will miss him. It was a honor to take care of him. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

    • Thank you Rosemary for your kind and compassionate care for Tim. We appreciate how you respected Tim in his journey. He now is at peace. Thank you~

      Judy E.

  • To Tim’s family, close friends and caretakers,

    I wish to extend my sincere condolences for the loss of so vibrant a person. I have wonderful memories of the busy and bountiful Flahive family, and am heartened to read just how joyfully and purposely Tim lived his life. May your memories of him transform your deep sadness slowly but surely to gratitude for having known and loved him.

    -Ellen Lorish

  • I am so proud to call you my brother. Having read all of the comments about you does not leave me at all surprised. Growing up with you was just as they describe….a funny, silly, smiling you! You lit up a room with that fabulous smile and booming laugh. I miss the silence now but having helped you along your journey for the last almost 8 years, I know you are in heaven smiling, laughing and happy you are free from that horrible disease that took you from us way too soon. Sweet memories of you help me get through each day. It is not easy but with God’s help, we will all get through this time without you. Rest In Peace sweet brother. You are free! I love you. Lovie!!! ( Wish I knew where that nickname came from.! Babs )

    • We are saddened to see the guy who “sparkled” in many ways has left our sight. We met him during a tough family time and Tim was able to guide us through the legal system. We are so happy that Tim is “free” of earthly challenges!

  • Aaaahh …how is it possible to feel the deep well of sorrow and also relief and delight all in the same moment? The thought of you gone from the here and now is unbearable. The thought of you … the all of you … completely whole again brings me SO much delight. You are something ELSE. I can barely wait to see your sparkling eyes, that infectious smile and be jolted by that Ignatius laugh of yours. I’ll be seeing you Honeycakes. I’m sure you will be raising Hell in Heaven till then.

  • Sorry to hear of Tim’s passing. He was a regular customer at Gulla’s Hot Dog in Delaware when we were there.We loved seeing him and talking to him especially about Notre Dame. He became a wonderful friend we just loved Tim. My Aunt passed with this same disease so I know the pain it brings to the family. Just know Tim is at peace and is the Tim we all know and love. To the family you have our deepest condolences and prayers.Heaven gained another angel.

  • We just heard about Tim’s passing – I said Oh no! Not Tim not now – not yet! We are so sorry to hear this news- but Poppy and I believe as Tim & his whole family does GOD LOVES US and he’s safely home in Heaven – I have awesome memories of Tim from the Delaware County pool days along with Tony Heald – Tim was so funny & you already mentioned a little goofy – and so sweet! My brother Scott Tilden always held Tim up as a great pal too ! One amazing fellow full of tricks/ smarts / laughter – so many great memories with the entire Flahive family – before Poppy & I retired I drove Tim back and forth to his daily lunches with his pals at The Old bag of nails” DATA loved him too! Each of us risked our jobs to run in and get him! Tony just so you know Tim would get emotional on the way back to Willowbrook – but all it took was reminding him about our days at the pool and laughter would resume ! Tim loved all of you guys!!! See you again Tim when we get to Heaven – sending love and prayers to the entire family- we feel blessed to have known you! Heaven is lit up with your smile

  • What can I say about Timmy. He could make you laugh no matter how bad you felt. I have known the Flahive family since I was very young which has been a long time. Spent a lot of time at their home. Always welcomed with open arms. Timmy fought a long hard battle. This decease is a tough one to watch. RIP Tim. My thoughts and prayers yo the whole family at this time of need.

  • My deepest condolences go out to the Flahive family, as well as Tim’s many friends. Without question, Tim had an incredible impact on and left a lasting legacy with the community of Delaware and all those he touched. My prayers are lifted up for his family and friends at this time of loss.

  • So sorry for the loss of one of the kindest, brightest and most joyful people I’ve ever met. I remember all those double team blocks we had together playing football at Hayes. My condolences to the Flahive family. You have lost a great man but the Lord has gained a precious soul. God bless all of you.

  • I am a better human being every day because I knew Duck for just a few years almost four decades ago. He was a model of selflessness, compassion and genuine regard for others. Gae and I offer our deepest sympathies to Honky, Beeper, Wilbur and all of Flahive Nation. His fight is finally over. We’ll always have Knoxville and the ‘dads my brother. Go Irish.

  • We are so saddened to read of Tim’s decline and recent passing. Tim came in
    to our lives during a time where the family was wandering on a road we had not traveled. He was alert, funny, professional and helped us in a timely manner. Tim’s family and friends are being lifted in our prayers. Until we see Tim … go Notre Dame!

  • My deepest condolences. Although I only knew Tim and your family for a short time, I had the greatest respect. You are in my prayers. Maybe Tim will bring us a little more pull for a Notre Dame national championship. 🍀

  • I am so sorry to hear of Tim’s passing. He was a great neighbor to my mother and was a great attorney for her and for me as well. My prayers go out to all of Tim’s family. May you feel God’s comfort in your time off loss.

  • I was so heartbroken when Terry told me the news that I burst into tears; my most sincere sympathy to the Flahive family for their loss. The walks to Blue Limestone for football practice, swim practice at the Natatorium, the times later that we met to handle my legal affairs, Tim was always self effacing, funny, good spirited, and one of the most kind and considerate individuals one could meet in this world. We have all suffered a loss but are all better to have had Tim in our lives. It is an honor just to have known him.

  • Condolences to the Flahive family. We were intending to see you all today and hope to at the rescheduling. Tim was always a great friend and our lives crossed in many ways with law, family, swimming, parties, extended family and friends. Tim was never pretentious; always confident in what he was doing; ready to share “growing up in Delaware” stories; and very easy to approach, and always ready to help if you needed something. It was a privilege knowing and working with him and even getting to work with his son. When I saw Phil on the job, I thought he’d be a great asset to law just as his Dad was and I was right.

    We miss Tim and always will,

    Pete and Jeannine Ruffing

  • My heart goes out to the entire Flahive family. I knew Tim since t-ball and knew and loved the entire family. Great fun on Curtis Street with football games and the west side kids. Forever friends. Rest In Peace.

  • To all the Flahive Family – My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

    I have known Tim since 1st Grade @ St Mary’s, Latin Masses before school, Playground battles, Swimming, Football, Summers at the Delaware County Pool, Stingray Meets……Always Beaming with that “Duck” Smile.

    You will be missed!

    Tim – you left this world a better place than when you entered and we are all better people for having know you.


    Danny Lincoln