Doris Mary (Bender) Atterholt Oyster

September 20, 1920 ‒ October 07, 2021

Bellville, Ohio

“Aging is a privilege and a blessing not granted to all.” Doris Mary Bender Atterholt Oyster, age 101, passed away on Thursday, October 7, 2021, at Primrose Retirement Community of Mansfield.

She was born on September 20, 1920, in Mayetta, Kansas, the daughter of John & Mae (Lewis) Bender and grew up on the family farm, located within the Potawatomi Indian Reservation. As a young girl, the family moved to Loudonville, Ohio and continued to farm the original Bender Homestead which remains in the family’s name to this day. Doris was a 1938 graduate of Loudonville High School where she played on the basketball team.

Doris didn’t shy away from hard work. As a young adult, she had a restaurant, ran a milk delivery route, and catered meal deliveries to the Flexible Company in Loudonville, later worked briefly for District 3 for the State of Ohio and General Industries in Bellville.

Spring of 1950, Doris’ niece introduced her to a handsome young man at a community event. Later that year, she married her beloved husband Rodney K Oyster on December 29, 1950 in the First Baptist Church in Loudonville by the Rev. A.D. Laman. They began their home together in Bellville where they lived for 58 years before his passing in 2009. Doris was a homemaker, devoted to her husband, children and grandchildren. Many people will remember the beautiful red Canna Lilies that lined the front of their home.

Doris had been an active member of the Bellville United Methodist Church and enjoyed attending Berean Baptist Church in Mansfield in her later years. She was an avid gardener and member of a garden club along with numerous other community and volunteer groups. She most enjoyed family time, from hosting family holidays to watching sports and school activities or just a simple visit. Always loyal and supportive of her family, Doris will be remembered for her hugs and smile that could light up a room.

She is survived by her daughter Connie (Atterholt) Hollon of Mansfield; son and daughter-in-law Mike & Angie Oyster of Bellville; grandchildren Rick Hollon of Columbus, Mary Beth Irwin of Inlet Beach, FL, Michelle Graser of Highlands Ranch, CO, Andrea (Adam) Smith of Bellville, and Aaron Oyster of Bellville; great grandchildren Elle (Adam) Young, Eliza Irwin, Madelyn Graser, Blayze Oyster, Addison, Allita, and Asa Smith; great great granddaughter Birdie Young; along with numerous nieces and nephews.

Doris was preceded in death by her devoted husband Rodney Oyster; her son Larry Atterholt; son-in-law Dick Hollon; and siblings George Bender, Tom Bender, Harold “Bill” Bender, John Bender, Margaret Lentz, Dave Bender, and Charles “Chuck” Bender.

The Oyster family will receive friends 5:30 to 7:30 PM on Wednesday, October 13, 2021, in the Snyder Funeral Homes, Bellville Chapel (81 Mill Road in Bellville) where her funeral service will be held at 11:00 AM on Thursday led by her relative, Rev. Jenny Whitmore. Burial will follow in Loudonville Cemetery.

The Oyster Family would like to express a special thanks to the nurses, aides, staff and residents at Primrose Retirement Community for their compassionate care and friendship to Doris over the past four years.

Memorial contributions may be sent to the American Heart Association, 5455 N. High St., Columbus, OH 43214, or brought to her services.

Snyder Funeral Homes is honored to care for Doris’ family. Post a memory of her online at

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  • God blessed her with A beautiful generation of Family to keep her memorie going on . Thanking of all of you God bless.

  • Doris certainly didn’t look 101 years old. She had such a radiant smile as long I can remember. Doris’ family are so fortunate to have her all these years and she was also very fortunate to have a family that loved and cared for her like they did. She was a good neighbor when we lived in the country near her and Rodney. You all have my deepest sympathy and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  • I have such fond memories of Doris. I sat with her and husband at many football games she was such a sweet lady she loved her family. Rest In Peace Doris.

  • My deepest condolences to the family of Doris. I am so blessed to have had the opportunity to know this wonderful woman. She was such a sweet lady and I did enjoy the time I got to spend with her and know her. She will be so missed by all those that knew her. May you all have peace and comfort during this time.

    Marilyn Johnson’
    Executive Director
    Primrose Retirement Community

  • So many wonderful memories of Oyster reunions over the years and hearing about the Bender reunions.
    Memories of Uncle George and Aunt “Leeta’s”big porch and their helper Anna who was another part of the family.
    Rodney and Doris were a blessing to older folks and always available to visit and to assist Uncle George’s sisters Aunt Mary Taylor and her sister Aunt Ethel Lynn.

    If you were looking for Rodney and Doris and they were not home they would often be at one of their rentals painting and gettting it ready to rent again. They were both hard workers. Neither of them rusted out..they were too busy.
    Connie and Dick were always busy keeping up with their family and in later years helping Rodney and Doris.
    /-Doris and Rodney loved all of the kids and grandkids deeply. They were proud of -their accomplishments and enjoyed watching them grow and evolve.
    They loved son in law Dick’s art and photography skills.
    He was so clever in capturing the family as they grew up as he recorded his family’s lives on film.
    Doris and Rodney doted on their son Mike and loved being a part of his and Angie’s lives.
    They enjoyed seeing Andrea and Aaron grow up and sharing their sports and celebrations along the way.
    Doris and Rodney were well known in the valley and enjoyed the Bellville community. When I was working with the Bellville Fire Dept Former Chief Rodney learned I was related to Doris and Rodney. He told me he was named after Rodney Oyster.
    The Bellville World’s Fair was a time for my family to to visit Bellville and catch up on those we loved. There were walks through the fair and sitting on porches remembering other fairs and other times.
    The men played penny ante poker and the women sipped iced tea on the porch or in a room together.
    These were times now gone.
    Our society is keeping us tied to less important things, work, home maintenance, feeding and clothing family, texting, video games and corporations demanding every moment of our times at work or tied to work with cells and laptops.
    Doris was a timeless person. When we talked on the phone or got together she was amazingly resilient to the bumps in the road (sometimes mountains) she was given
    It was wonderful sharing her Pandemic outdoor 100th birthday party.
    She aged gracefully;
    Her eyes sparkled and danced as she greeted her guests.
    Her faith and love guided her through the deepest sorrows and greatest joys.
    She is a wonderful example of a life well lived as was Rodney.-”
    Great role models, wonderful people.
    Rest in Peace, you have earned it !!!

  • Doris was always known as Aunt Dodi to my sister and I. She was our favorite Bender aunt just because of her smile which oozed with loving kindness and thoughtfulness. As we got older, she was always genuinely interested about us and our families. Our visits to the Belleville farmhouse, as we called it, were always a treat for us and of course, the Bender family reunions at Ashland Park could never be complete if she and Uncle Rodney ever failed to be there. We loved her deeply and know her family will miss her terribly! Our sincere condolences to Connie, Mike, and families.
    Love, Cindy (Barry) and Deb (Bruce)

  • Mike, Connie, and families,
    I am so sorry to hear of Aunt Dode’s passing. What a wonderful Aunt. The video that you posted for sharing is such a beautiful tribute for such a beautiful lady. All of the pictures are so special and hold so many heartfelt memories. All of the hours thru the years chatting on the phone with Aunt Dode will always be close to my heart. May you all remember all those special times and memories that you hold dear. May Aunt Dode be at peace and know that she was dearly loved by all. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
    Love and Hugs,
    Mary Ann ( Annie) Bender Brown

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